I thought I had prepared myself for what was to come with my
mom because unfortunately at the rate things were going I knew this day would come
sooner than we ever imagined. Never in a million years had I thought my mom
wouldn’t be there for my wedding day or to meet my kids and the many many more things
we won’t experience together. I miss her smile, her voice, physically seeing
her, her hugs, her sarcastic remarks, her laugh, her cooking, her “good morning”
texts I received EVERY single morning, calling her during or after my lunch
break each day, her nightly phone calls because we would talk every night I was
not at home, I miss giving her a hug and kiss goodbye before leaving to go to work
each morning, I miss coming home from work and seeing her in the kitchen as
soon as I walked in the door, and of course the list is endless…nothing will
ever be the same again.
“It will get easier” “Give it time” “Everything happens for
a reason”….hearing this won’t help nor change how I feel. Time will not heal
the pain of losing someone who embodied so many things for me ~mom, best
friend, biggest supporter, idol, my heart, my world~ I feel like I lost
multiple people all at the same moment because she wasn’t just my mom. The more
time passes the more I miss her and I know there will be more days coming up
that I’ll keep missing her. I can easily say that our relationship was flawless,
it was beautiful, genuine, full of happiness and laughter together, and one
that I highly doubt I can ever experience again, it was unique and full of
endless love for one another…but it ended way too soon L The only thing time is doing
is forcing me to make room for all this pain, grief, and never-ending wishes to
have my mom here today, tomorrow, and many many more days to come. I don’t
think I’ll ever get over this, I’ll just have to go through it and it’s not
going to get better because everything is always going to be different every day
now and I’ll have to find ways to deal with it because I can’t change the
circumstance.
Well I didn’t want to make this seem like such an upsetting
posting but this is what’s on my mind right now. I’ll
continue to push through and do all I
can to continue making my mommy as proud as I can. Many of my tears
start as memories but they quickly change to sadness,
pain, frustration, and every other emotion you can think of. I know that
the pain I experienced through your battle, the pain I'm experiencing
from your loss and the pain I will continue to have has changed me and
will continue to change me throughout life. I just pray it will be a
change for the better.
LOVE AND MISS YOU BEYOND WORDS!!!